3 simple rules for grace-full work

How to add grace to your work and reach your goals.

3 simple rules for grace-full work

I love to work and I believe that I’m made to work but juggling working when you have a child at home is akin to holding a wriggly fish without dropping it.  It doesn’t look very graceful.

I realised very early on this blogging journey that it would be a huge juggle to work on this blog and look after my kids effectively, read BLOGGING A FULL TIME JOB? and 10 TIPS ON HOW TO BE A BETTER BLOGGER to get an idea of the hours needed to pursue a career in blogging.

As an ex-procrastinator, I could (and did) make up excuses why I can’t do it all.  Yes I could have worked harder and I want to work harder.  However, blogging when the baby is napping, early in the morning and late into the night; it made me very tired.  I know myself very well, I find it hard to switch between my ‘Mum’ head and ‘blogger’ head.  I get so ‘into the zone’ when I blog and when you have small kids at home, your zone needs to be on them.  It was starting to ‘cost’ too much both in terms of energy and time, I was making myself ill plus I wasn’t being paid to do it, so something had to give.  I only have the energy to do one job well, you can guess which job won out the day.

The season to work hadn’t arrived yet.  I knew that the years looking after the children full time would be short in the big scheme of things.

In the procrastinating days I would have given up blogging altogether, and I’ve come too far in my journey to give up.  During my stay at home years I learnt a very important thing, the graceful words ‘no guilt’.  These words have been a total game-changer to me on so many levels and in so many aspects of my life.

When my head was spinning with too much to do…. ‘no guilt’.

When I felt rejected or ignored….’no guilt’.

When I felt like I was failing as a blogger…. ‘no guilt, move on’.

When I felt I was failing as a Mum ‘feel the feeling, name it, then let it go, no guilt’.

Can you sense how freeing that is? To give yourself grace; grace to make mistakes, to feel exhausted, to feel like you can’t go on, to FEEL ALL THE FEELS and no guilt?  Today is a brand new day people, and I am a brand new person.

3 SIMPLE RULES FOR GRACE-FULL WORK

1. NO GUILT

You’ve guessed it the top spot goes to ‘no guilt’.

We all make mistakes, we all get tired and get brain ache, we all run around in circles sometimes, we all go upstairs only to forget what we went up there for (just me?).

Holding onto negatives without affirming yourself with positives means you end up in the negative all the time.  The tiredness will filter into the next day and then the next. That’s down to feeling guilty and ain’t nobody got time for that!

2. THE GIFT OF TIME

Procrastinator’s think that tasks take longer than they should.  Therefore the right amount of time is not allocated to the task, then when the task doesn’t get done in time?

GUILT, GUILT, GUILT.

I mean how rubbish are you anyway that you can’t do one simple task right? WRONG.

Give yourself a gift and allocate the right amount of time to the task.  Time to get out of the door in the morning, time to go through your e-mails and time to do the housework and after you’ve successfully and grace-fully done each task give yourself a BIG pat on the back.  You deserve it because you’re awesome.  Clearly.

3. WRITE DOWN YOUR PRIORITIES

When you have a gazillion things whirring round your head it’s hard to keep on top of the jobs at hand. Anyone would struggle.

Work out what you can do and when you can do it, only you know yourself what works for you.  You might surprise yourself and achieve more than you thought, or not (see no guilt!).

Make a list.  If it changes, make amendments or make another list.  WRITE DOWN YOUR PRIORITIES.

The working day can be set in stone if you want, but in my experience work life just doesn’t work that way. I used to get so frustrated when working on a task only to be interrupted by my boss trumping my task with a more urgent report.

Remember friends, priorities, like clouds, are ever shifting and moving and we need to move with them not against them.

Frustration and impatience are the opposite of efficiency and calmness. Writing a list will enable you to go back and finish the other task later, when you have time!

A NEW SEASON

My son has recently started school and my daughter now goes to nursery a whole day a week.  I could choose to make it Costa time (Katie Hopkins promised me it would be and man do I deserve it), but I’m a worker, and a worker’s gotta work.

My priorities in regards to ‘family first’ will never change and neither should they.  I will always be the one to take my kids to school and pick them up again.  I will always be the one that tucks them in and reads them stories, AND I’m also a blogger, a writer, an editor for two blogs and in order to be good at these jobs it’s time to take up a more efficient and grace-full way of working.

Do you know when you work at your best? How do you prioritise your work? Do you work from home?  I’d love to hear your thoughts about it in the comments.

Until the next time friends, have a great grace-full day!

Lizzie xo

 

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11 Comments on 3 simple rules for grace-full work

  1. Carla
    September 15, 2015 at 10:17 (4 years ago)

    Fab post!
    I’m currently signed off work ( still 1.5 weeks left) and over the weeks I felt so guilty that I hadn’t done the housework or only written 2 blog posts or whatever I could guilt trip myself into. I’ve been ill and that is that. I spent time with my children and that was fab. I’m all out of routine and I’m not sure how to prioritise things again but I will get there eventually! Plus I’m back at work for a atleast a month soon too!
    🙂
    C
    xxx

  2. Lizzie Somerset
    September 15, 2015 at 10:23 (4 years ago)

    I’m so glad you found the post helpful and that it spoke into your current situation. I’m sorry to hear you are unwell and I think you’re awesome to get any work done at all! Remember looking after kids is hard work too and when you’re unwell even harder. No guilt all the way Carla you rock xo

  3. Becca@keepingupwithejoneses.c
    September 15, 2015 at 10:49 (4 years ago)

    I hear you Lizzie! I felt so guilty for not working ( blogging) over the summer but whenever I tried it was impossible to concentrate and then I felt guilty for not paying attention to my children so I decided just to take a break. Now my oldest is in school all day I tire out the little man first thing in the morning then I get a couple of hours work in while he naps and so far so good 🙂 xx

  4. Lizzie Somerset
    September 15, 2015 at 10:58 (4 years ago)

    Sounds very familiar Becca, us Mum’s are under immense pressure to be able to do it all, but I’d rather be wise than burn out. It sounds like you have a great plan that works well for you! Well done xo

  5. Julie B
    September 16, 2015 at 10:34 (4 years ago)

    Amen to the ‘no guilt’ Lizzie. That is one we all take on and I have to constantly remind myself not to! So key to moving forward though x

  6. Kerry
    September 16, 2015 at 16:58 (4 years ago)

    Really good post, I can relate to feeling like you have too much to juggle. Feeling that right at this very minute as a matter of fact!! Xx

  7. Lizzie Somerset
    September 19, 2015 at 16:35 (4 years ago)

    Thanks Rebecca, it’s advice I tell myself as well! xo

  8. Lisa (mummascribbles)
    September 20, 2015 at 19:51 (4 years ago)

    I couldn’t have read this post at a better time. I am off work tomorrow (as I was on Weds and Fri) and I have SO much to do at work that I have a million things whirring round my head, things I keep thinking that need doing and then I feel guilty and completely and utterly stressed. This whole weekend I haven’t bee able to stop thinking about it and it’s really affecting my mood and the time with the family. On top of all that, next weekend is my little boy’s third birthday, I have his cake to make, little party to sort out, and it’s my sister and my nephews birthday too. I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed by it all at the moment and I know that from Tuesday onwards it’s all just going to be manic! I am seriously starting to reconsider my whole career so that it doesn’t have this horrible effect on me! Thanks so much for sharing this post and thanks for linking up with #TwinkluyTuesday

  9. Lizzie Somerset
    September 20, 2015 at 21:05 (4 years ago)

    Thank you so much for reading, I’m glad you liked my post. I understand how you feel, I’ve been there so many times. The best words you can say when feeling overwhelmed is ‘no guilt’. I think normal life as a Mum is pretty full on, and add in a birthday and other stuff on top we are liable to self combust! It’s my boys 5th birthday next weekend, we can support each other through it! Write those lists and work through them, stay in the moment and try to reign your mind back in to the here and now instead of racing ahead. I know you will smash the party, the cake, and even enjoy it all too. You’re awesome xo

  10. Lizzie Somerset
    September 20, 2015 at 21:06 (4 years ago)

    Thanks Rebecca! Xo

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