Yup, I said it. There are times (sometimes whole days) when I don’t want to parent. I’m a big girl and I just get on with it, however, there are days that are harder, they’re called inset days.
Do I run out of the door, maybe catch the first plane to Barbados? No, of course not I stick with it and grin (sometimes) and bear it but it sometimes feels like that would be a pretty awesome solution to feeling overwhelmed by parenthood.
Ah to be carefree again, I think this is why spa breaks are so popular (and I always have a holiday brochure to hand).
The kids are arguing with each other for the umpteenth time that day, they ask questions that aren’t questions and wind each other up a treat. They use their whiney voices and “MuuummM Katie just hit me’ card. Lord give me strength.
It’s enough to drive any sane person round the bend.
So, what to do when you just don’t want to parent anymore… Some top tips from me to make it through.
1. ASK YOURSELF WHAT’S REALLY GOING ON
Most of the time the kids are playing up because they’re one of the following : bored, hungry, thirsty, haven’t been outside yet or have had too much screen time. If they’re driving you crackers do they need any of the above addressing? If not, move on to number 2.
2. ATTENTION SEEKING
Let’s face it, to kids mum and dad are king and queen. It might not feel like that sometimes, but in their world right now, TAG you’re it. You’re the one they really, really want. Even when they say ‘Go away Mummy”,
If they’re attention seeking it’s likely because you’re doing something else. They want your full attention and nothing is gong to get your attention like screaming at the top of their lungs.
If you have an attention seeking child, I feel you. I have no tips yet, I’m taking steps to learn how to deal with it. My feeling is they are feeling disconnected from us, at least that’s how I feel when they misbehave. So reconnecting is my gut hunch for this one!
3. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE
I know I go stur crazy if I stay in all day and the same can be said of the children. We need to get out everyday, if only for a little while. For fresh air and a dose of Vitamin D.
Wrap up warm if it’s cold and get on out. Today we went to the dentist, it counts.
Side note: a mum in the playground said she bought snow suits for her kids so they still go to the park in the winter, I thought that was genius. Side(side)note, buy snow suits in the Sports Direct sale.
4. READ THEM A STORY
Remember Jackanory? We were entranced by it and I promise your kids will be too. They love stories, ALL of them do.
Get the children to choose their favourites and get down on the floor if your hips and knees can manage it with cushions and snuggle up, definitely do the voices too.
Do you have days you don’t want to parent? It’s ok to admit it, I just have!
I’d love to hear your hints and tips for making it through the harder times, after all, we’re in this together.