It can be hard to watch our children experience setbacks and difficulties, but it’s important for them to learn the lessons inherent in failure and overcoming problems to achieve a goal. If their whole life is plain sailing, they’ll never understand the satisfaction that comes with knowing you’ve risen to a challenge or worked through your fears to get something you want. Here’s some advice from an independent Catholic school in Surrey on how you can teach your child to overcome obstacles. 

Encourage problem-solving

The key here is to prompt your child to work things out for themselves, rather than relying on you or someone else to solve a problem for them. Next time your child is struggling with something, try to resist the urge to jump in and help them – give them time and space to figure it out on their own. Being able to find solutions independently will increase their confidence for the next time they face a challenge. You can also show them that problem-solving can actually be fun by playing board games as a family and encouraging your child to offer their suggestions for how to get around an obstacle. 

Set realistic goals

Encourage your child to set achievable goals rather than aiming for things which are completely out of their reach. If they fail too often because of an unrealistic ambition, this will only dent their confidence and prevent them from trying again. Work with them to create realistic goals which still challenge them so they don’t lose motivation. Your child will get a kick out of reaching a goal which wasn’t easy and this will boost their confidence for the future. 

Model resilience

If your child sees you working hard to overcome an obstacle and reach a goal, they’ll be inspired and much more likely to behave in the same way. Next time you face a challenge or setback, get your child involved in finding the learning opportunities and make sure they see you trying again or coming up with another solution if the first one hasn’t worked. 

Encourage reasonable risk-taking

The risks don’t have to be huge – they could be as simple as talking to someone new or trying a ride they’ve never been on before; taking small risks and stepping out of their comfort one will boost your child’s confidence and encourage them to try new things in the future, even though they might involve an element of risk. 

The best thing you can do to support your child is to give them the confidence to tackle challenges head-on and embrace whatever life throws at them. 

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