Even though I don’t set resolutions anymore, I quite like the word resolution. It has all of the promise you could ever ask for. It’s set, it’s certain and you are resolved TO DO IT!
Except, there’s a problem!
I know you know what I’m going to say, it doesn’t work. And even though it SHOULD work, it just doesn’t work for most of us to set resolutions I know alot of you feel the same.
When I get to the end of a year, I love to reflect back with gratititude on all of the things that have come to me and us as a family. The things I’ve worked hard for as an individual and the things we’ve achieved as a family. As a family with 4 souls, all with different needs, personalities and viewpoints, it can be quite the mish mash of good and bad, happy and fowl, compromise and wild abandon.
For 2015 and 2016 I tried something new, the trend for setting a word for the year, to use as a focus rather than a resolution that is too rigid. A word for the year can help guide you in what is important.
2015’s word CONSISTENCY came out of a weakness of mine to be more mindful in everything I do. Consistency is something I really struggle with and I still can’t say I’ve cracked it. I’m glad I chose it as my word and the focus is still with me, I’m still working through it.
2016’s word was QUALITY and this worked a treat for me. It focussed my mind in so many ways, to de-clutter my home using Marie Kondo’s method, to being more mindful about what I buy, what we eat, where we go, who we spend time with etc. A real life changing word.
So 2017…TRUST. Where did that word come from? I’d like to say I went through a process but the truth is the word just fell into my heart and stuck.
I immediately felt disappointed with my word (perfectionism!) because it felt so, well boring really!
TRUST, abit like resolution, is such a final kind of word.
We’re only a couple of weeks in January and I can see so clearly already why TRUST is my word for this year, I have major issues with trust on so many levels and there is much more to trust than I thought at the very start of this new year.
Already this year I’ve been prompted to ask myself ‘do I trust this person’?
Think about it, how many times in a day do you have to make quick snap decisions about something or somebody?
We had a charity canvesser knock on our door the other day at 8pm! He talked so loudly, didn’t check if we were happy to chat, the kids were in bed and in danger of being woken up, the knock on the door is dreaded in our household, I really can’t stand cold callers.
Would you trust someone who knocked on the door asking for your bank details?
He went through his speech (and it was a speech) he asked all the right leading Q’s which of course Jon was then led into the answer that he wanted him to give, I was upstairs listening and I could hear the whole thing.
I realised something there and then, I trusted that I cannot trust this person. They do not have our best interests are heart, they want our money plain and simple. That is their ultimate goal, to get our bank details down on their little sheet (which will never happen because it is never wise to give personal details to someone who knocks on the door!)
So I now know that this word TRUST is actually very empowering because it’s making me practice my own gut instincts about situations and people, and that excites me.
I know that through this process I’m going to learn to trust, by trusting people until they prove themselves to be untrustworthy.
Pretty much anyone who knocks on my door at night unannounced asking for money, will not be trusted!
Have you chosen a word for the year? I’d love to hear your perspective in the comments below or on Facebook!